and then try to start it - that will bypass your relay (and clutch switch, and anti theft I think). I just had the pleasure of diagnosing this same thing. Thought it might be the relay, but it was clicking, and I tested for voltage at the starter solenoid when the key was turned to the "start" position and it showed voltage, so I assumed it was the starter. Low and behold, new starter didn't work either. I also discovered the previous owner bypassed the anti-theft and the clutch safety switch. Regardless, today I jumped the larger connector to the relay and it started - so I will be getting a new relay